We have been in school now for two weeks today.....I have made "special" trips BACK to the school almost every day since school has started....No, these special trips are not those when they were in kindergarten and I would bring cute little snacks and a juice box topped with a homemade card that said, "I love you and miss you while you are at school." Oh wait, let me back up, as I was reminded by my "I'm smarter than you, sexier than you, and way better athletic than you" son that, "that statement is not correct, you didn't make a special trip back out to school the first day of school." Okay, more on that one later...And yes, by the way, he is grounded for life on that one.....
No, I make special trips because of one certain phrase, Mom, I forgot......Now, normally I could understand this statement. The school gives way to much homework, the binders are TOO big to ALL fit in their back-packs, so all the kids are carrying the overflow. BUT, before my car gets into gear, I am asking the question, "Do you have everything?" They respond, "Yes, we have everything." I'm not thinking that is good enough so I ask again, "Are you sure you have everything?" With attitude, I get, "GOSH, MOM, YES, WE HAVE EVERYTHING!!!!!" As I'm driving, I go down the list of classes and ask if we have everything needed for that class, they usually answer, yes, they have it....you know, with the same attitude.....
Oh no, it isn't until we have pulled into the driveway of our home 30 MINUTES.... away from their school, walked in the house, eating our snack, and pulling out homework for the night, that I hear the words, "Mom, I forgot"..............Fireworks exploding, bombs blasting, hair flying, head rolling, eyes turning red, green spewing from the mouth (all from me)....."I ASKED YOU IF YOU HAD EVERYTHING, AND YOU SAID...WHAT?......WHAT DID YOU SAY?....WHAT?...WHAT DID YOU SAY?.....Yeah, I repeat to REALLY drive home what a loser they are at this point.....good mom...good mom....tears are starting to flow, mouth opened just right to get the "sad" affect...I shut it down like rain on a parade....Don't you even start crying now.....You will cry when you can't play video games this weekend.....
We both walk away feeling empty, sad, dumb, and mad.....All those emotions make for a BAD set up for doing homework. What you need to understand is my son is A.D.D. with dyslexic....And for two years we turned our car around and went back and got what he needed, or came back out to the school to bring what they forgot. And when we think it does them more harm than good to not have it, we bring it out to them. But we are trying to break that.....Like a bird that is attempting to throw their baby out of the nest to fly.....Yes, I hurt every time they have to be pushed out, but one day, I think I'll understand it's for the best...Today it hurts......
I hear these words repeated so many times, "One day, you won't ever have to be mad at them for forgetting." And yes, I get that...however, today I'm in the midst of the battle and I can't see the forest from the trees.....My goal is to have ONE day where we don't forget anything...the land of utopia....Oh, wait, that doesn't exist!!!!
Gonna be a long weekend...No video games, cell phones, T.V. for both of them....I better go pull out some fun crafts for us to do...That will teach them.....
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